Men Underestimate The Power Of Their Leadership With Women - MTP507

In this episode of *Better Men Get Better Women*, host Scott McKay welcomes back longtime friend and fellow dating expert Marnie Kinris to explore a powerful yet often overlooked truth: men significantly underestimate their own leadership power in relationships with women. Drawing from personal experiences as parents, coaches, and relationship experts, they unpack how men’s behavior directly shapes the type of women they attract—whether emotionally healthy partners or 'crazy' or narcissistic ones. The conversation centers on the 'Four S's'—Safe, Special, Sexy, and Selected—as primal triggers that create attraction and deep connection. Marnie emphasizes that women don’t need to be 'fixed' but need to feel seen, valued, and chosen. Scott reinforces that leadership isn’t about control, but about setting boundaries, embodying confidence, and creating emotional safety. They challenge the myth that women hold all the power, arguing instead that men who master the Four S’s and the Big Four (confidence, groundedness, communication, and character) gain real agency. The episode concludes with practical takeaways: lead with intention, avoid desperation, prioritize emotional safety, and remember that being chosen is the ultimate form of masculine power.