If You Aren’t Doing Well Spiritually

This episode of the Focus on the Family Strengthening Marriage Podcast addresses the critical issue of spiritual disconnection in marriages, emphasizing that spiritual intimacy is foundational to relational health. Host John Fuller, along with marriage experts Greg and Aaron Smalley, discuss how 50-70% of couples seeking help report feeling spiritually disconnected from God and each other. Drawing on both biblical truth and secular research, they highlight the profound impact of spiritual connection on marital stability and emotional closeness. The conversation centers on practical, grace-filled strategies for couples—especially those where one partner is more spiritually engaged than the other—such as self-assessment, leading by example, gentle invitation, and finding everyday moments to draw God into conversations and routines. The hosts stress that spiritual intimacy doesn’t require formal rituals; it can be cultivated through prayer in the moment, gratitude, and intentional presence. Key takeaways include the importance of personal spiritual health before seeking relational change, the power of one spouse modeling spiritual discipline without pressure, and the value of using ordinary moments—like date nights or bedtime chats—as opportunities for spiritual connection. The episode also promotes resources like Deborah Faleta’s book *Love in Every Season* and a free counseling consultation through Focus on the Family. Ultimately, the message is one of hope: even in seasons of spiritual dryness, couples can rekindle connection through faith, patience, and small, consistent acts of devotion.