The Unexpected Reason People Aren't Having Sex & How to Fix It | Dr. Debra Soh

In this episode of The Rubin Report, host Dave Rubin welcomes back Dr. Debra Soh, a sex neuroscientist and author of 'Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy,' to discuss the alarming trend of declining sexual activity among Gen Z and millennials. Despite living in the most sexually permissive culture in history—with rampant access to porn, dating apps, and AI companions—data shows that one in three men and one in five women haven’t had sex in the past year. Dr. Soh argues this paradox stems from a complex mix of biological, psychological, and societal factors: early exposure to pornography (often before age 12), endocrine disruptors in plastics and food, declining testosterone in young men, and the emotional numbing caused by hyper-stimulating digital experiences. She also highlights how AI companions, OnlyFans simulations, and sex robots are increasingly replacing real human intimacy, creating a cycle of isolation and desensitization. The conversation explores how social media, screen culture, and gender dynamics have eroded communication skills, especially between men and women, while also touching on the disproportionate impact on young men’s confidence and motivation in education and dating. Dr. Soh advocates for personal responsibility, parental vigilance, and systemic awareness—especially around device-level controls and environmental toxins—as key to reversing this 'sex recession'.