Minhagei Sephirah-Engagement Parties-Weddings and Shaving

This episode of the Yeshiva of Newark at IDT Podcast explores the halachic and cultural nuances surrounding the period of Sefirat HaOmer, focusing on the customs of refraining from marriage (Nesuin), haircuts, and shaving. Rabbi Abram Kivalevich delves into the historical and textual foundations of these minhagim, particularly the debate over whether the deaths of Rabbi Akiva's students occurred over 33 days or extended into the 34th. He examines the rulings of key authorities like the Beis Yosef, Machaber, and Ramo, clarifying when it becomes permissible to resume these activities—especially around Lag BaOmer. The discussion also touches on the permissibility of engagement parties (Eirusin) and the nature of simcha during Sefirat HaOmer, questioning whether such events constitute a 'sudah mitzvah' and whether dancing is appropriate. The host reflects on evolving societal norms, noting that modern casualness has softened traditional expectations around daily shaving, while still affirming the spiritual significance of the period. He concludes with a personal anecdote from his time in the Mir Yeshiva, underscoring the communal joy associated with engagements.