She Treats Me Like A Backup Booty Call. Should I Tell Her I’m Moving On?

Coach Corey Wayne addresses a 35-year-old man struggling with a casual, inconsistent relationship with a 21-year-old musician he sees occasionally at music festivals. The man feels unappreciated, as she only responds to his outreach with excuses and busy schedules, yet remains physically available when they meet. Corey explains that the man is investing far more emotional energy than she is, creating an imbalance where he’s treated as a 'backup booty call.' He advises against telling her he’s moving on, calling it a manipulative tactic rooted in logic rather than emotional intelligence. Instead, Corey urges the man to stop pursuing her entirely—ceasing all outreach, not just when she’s unavailable but consistently. By removing his attention and effort, he’ll create a sense of scarcity and let her notice his absence. Corey emphasizes that true attraction is built through behavior, not words, and that the greatest gift you can give someone is your time—especially when they don’t value yours. The episode concludes with a call to action for premium coaching and content access.