The Love Of My Life Was My Best Friend. Then She Died At 34.

Grace Ruvray's memoir, *Is It Too Early to Bitch?*, is a raw, luminous testament to the kind of friendship that reshapes your identity—intimate, unconditional, and life-defining. At its heart is her bond with Katie Lees, a best friend she met at drama school in 2009, whose sudden death at 34 from a rare AstraZeneca vaccine-related blood clot turned grief into a political minefield. Grace recounts their journey from a shared 'is it too early to bitch?' moment to a decade of shared adventures, creative collaborations, and emotional intimacy—so deep that they called each other 'wife.' But when Katie died after a four-day hospitalization, Grace became the chief messenger of devastating news, navigating a world where her grief was both invisible and weaponized. The book becomes a meditation on how loss rewrites your sense of self: without Katie, Grace feels she’s lost a mirror, a compass, and a co-conspirator in life. Yet through writing, she finds a way to keep her alive—not in memory, but in action. The Katie Lees Foundation now funds emerging women and gender-diverse artists under 34, ensuring Katie’s legacy lives on in creativity. Ultimately, Grace’s message is urgent and tender: in a world that grows busier and colder, call your friend. Not for advice, not for updates—just to say, 'Hey, what are you doing?' The most meaningful moments are the ones that mean nothing at all.